Consent is one of the corner-stones of great sex & positive sexuality, & yet because it’s so rarely talked about during sex education at school, young people are confused about what actually constitutes positive & enthusiastic consent.
As Rhiannon Holder (from the amazing charity, Brook) explains,
“Too often consent is viewed as a simple yes or no, and it’s much more complex than that,” says Holder. ”I don’t think many young people are offered the opportunity to explore all of the factors involved in giving consent: peer pressure, alcohol and drugs, self-esteem, coercion, gender issues.”
Enthusiastic consent can mean different things to different people, but if you’re not sure whether your partner’s happy or not, check in with them!
Claire Kaplan, UVA’s director of sexual and domestic violence services, speaks candidly about sexual assault prevention and the consequences of standing idly by.
By Lauren Reisig
College campuses are a unique environment where the intellectual and the social collide, and…
You used the expression “legitimate” rape as if to imply there were such a thing as “illegitimate” rape. Let me try to explain to you what that does to the minds, hearts and souls of the millions of women on this planet who experience rape. It is a form of re-rape. The underlying assumption of your statement is that women and their experiences are not to be trusted. That their understanding of rape must be qualified by some higher, wiser authority. It delegitimizes and undermines and belittles the horror, invasion, desecration they experienced. It makes them feel as alone and powerless as they did at the moment of rape.